Daily Dose of Sunshine, V2.0: Day 3, I Am Enough

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It’s funny, don’t you think?

Our reliance on others to “make us whole”?

For our partners to “complete us”?

For our families to “be there for us”?

And then the rise of our loneliness when our friends, family, and partners fail to make us “whole”?

I find it funny now, because somewhere, deep down, we know that we are enough. While we have evolved into a species thriving on the ties of our social groups and acceptance by those social groups and norms, we are born as complete individuals. We have within us the power to exist as a complete, whole, and unique individual.

While social support, relationships, friendships, and love, make life infinitely better and joyful to experience, it is important to recognise that we aren’t incomplete, or broken, or a half of a whole. 

We have reached a point in our lives, where we must look at ourselves, and reaffirm the fact that, I am enough. 

And we need to say it as many times as it takes to believe it.

I am enough.

You are enough. 

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Lots of love,

P.

Daily Dose of Sunshine, V2.0: Day 2, Upbringing

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Life is just one endless loop of expectations and disappointments; so much so, that the hope within us never gives up on its expectations, despite the number of times they aren’t met.

Recently, I have come to understand something very fundamental to finding internal happiness; you have to remember that not everyone has been brought up the same way as you have. Not everyone shares your values, or your beliefs, or your faith. Every individual is a sum of all his/her life experiences and their inherited values and belief systems. These are almost always very different from your own.

They may not love the way you do, or hurt the way you do.

The moment you realise that others don’t share your belief systems, you stop expecting them to understand or empathise with you. And with the end of those expectations, you see an end of your disappointments.

Its pretty simple really- people cannot fulfil what you want from them, because most probably, they can’t even understand you, your feelings, or your expectations.

So go ahead, allow people a little leeway, and start to feel happy with the life and love around you.

Lots of love,

P.

Daily Dose of Sunshine, V 2.0: Day 1, Bringing the Sunshine Back

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The last few months have gone by in a blur, and honestly, I have missed writing and connecting with all my great readers! Even in the absence of new blogs, you all have been reading, liking, following, and patiently waiting! For that, I am so grateful! Thank you!

With this gratitude, I bring to you, Daily Dose of Sunshine, Version 2.0! A whole new series of posts to keep you motivated, inspired, and ready to face the curveballs life throws at you.

There will also be book reviews, listicles, and a tad bit of nostalgia from some of my previous posts.

Stay tuned for some sunny, shiny stories!

Lots of love,

P.

 

Daily Dose of Sunshine, Day 63: Who You Used To Be

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I’m sure, or I at least hope there are many others like me who over-think, over-obsess, and over-analyse. We assess situations and feelings to their minutest details, and find ourselves lost in the abyss of a mental chaos.

We keep going back to conversations that have happened, wondering if what we said was the right thing to say, and what we could have said instead. Replaying arguments and discussions, obsessing over what the other person thought of us.

We go back to all our fallacies and all our mistakes, judging ourselves endlessly until we have shredded all of our self-confidence. Because, as I wrote in my last post, Hate is Easy but to love requires strength and courage that we most often deny ourselves.

But you know, all of that, really doesn’t matter all that much. It doesn’t matter because it’s gone and it’s over. What really matters, is what you took away from that, and whether or not, you evolved from those actions and conversations.

What truly matters, is who you have become today, instead of who you were yesterday.

And as long as you are a better person than you were yesterday, you are okay 🙂

Lots of love,

P.

Daily Dose of Sunshine, Day 62 (#BringingBackTheSunshine): Hate is Easy

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It’s been exactly a month since I haven’t been able to write or post anything, and honestly, my fingers and my mind have been itching to get back to my blog! So, I think it’s safe to say that I’m #BringingBackTheSunshine!

You know, the world is gradually moving towards the side of ‘hate’ being heavier than the side of ‘love’- hearing about celebrated artists like Kate Spade’s and Anthony Bourdain’s suicides have only made me more certain of this belief. Whether it is self-hatred or the insensitive judgmental hatred from the world around us, it’s definitely there, and it’s definitely killing us inside. Bit by bit; one beautiful person after another.

And as a psychologist, I think I understand why people have begun to trust less, love less, believe less. Because to hate someone, well, to hate is the easiest thing in the world. It does not take much to hate someone, and to hate someone who has hurt you, that’s just a no-brainer, right?

To foster the feelings of negativity towards someone is so so so much easier than investing your mind, body, and soul into loving that someone.

Because it takes strength to love.

It takes courage to love.

It takes a whole lot of pure, unadulterated, honest, selfless piece of your innermost soul to love.

But hate, hate is easy.

Don’t let your scale tip towards the side of the evil of hate, only because you are too lazy to love.

Lots of love,

P.

 

Daily Dose of Sunshine, Day 59: Be Led By Your Dreams

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Good morning to all you wonderful readers!

I am back after a long 15-day study break, and so excited to share so much more sunshine on my blog!

So today for #MondayMotivation, all I have to say to you is, do not give up on your dreams because you are too caught up in your ‘problems’. Problems are going to take up all the years of your life, but it is the dreams that will bring life to your years.

Keep dreaming, keep living, keep pushing! And slowly but surely, all of your dreams will come true!

Lots of love,

P.

Daily Dose of Sunshine, Day 57: You Don’t Have To Be Positive All The Time

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Trust me, I know that feeling to wanting to “feel positive” all the time. When the whole world keeps telling me to “think positive” and “be strong”, I begin to doubt myself because I feel sad or tired or scared about something happening in my life.

But ITS OKAY. Its’ perfectly okay to FEEL. To have feelings which are not all that “positive”. To experience frustration or anxiety is okay, and it doesn’t make you a “weak” or a “negative” person.

At the end of the day, you are only human, and being human is the total sum of all experiences and all feelings.

So, no, you don’t have to be positive all the time.

Lots of love,

P.